Remember as a kid that feeling in the pit of your stomach that you didn't belong and you didn't fit in? For me, moving to a new school every year, 6 years in a row, I felt that way... A LOT. Do you sometimes feel that same feeling as an adult? I know I've carried it with me into adulthood. Brene Brown talks about it in her book "Braving the Wilderness." She explains how we "hustle" to prove our worth to fit in, and how fitting in is a very poor substitute for belonging.
Lately, I've had a realization that as a "grown-ass adult" I get to choose where I belong. I also realize that I truly don't want to belong or be liked or accepted EVERYWHERE.
And that's OK.
I've also realized that sometimes, I have a hard time believing that I'm worthy of love and belonging. I know I'm not the only one who feels this, at least sometimes.
The BEST thing I'm learning, is what it feels like to find your Tribe. Now that I'm learning who my people are, I want to truly love with an open heart. Over the years, I've had to let go of some people. It was hard.
Yet, letting go is not always a loss.
What if in the letting go, you discover your own beautiful Self? What if, instead of worrying whether or not you will fit in and be accepted, you decide that you get to CHOOSE where you belong? What if, you decide to make a commitment, until death do you part, to YOURSELF? That is a promise you can keep, no matter what.
And, when you Belong to Yourself, you will never be alone.
Sending love to you, Tribe. <3
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